This is a huge exaggeration and demonstrates ignorance. Fans of the top countries always claim when these players choose to play for other countries that they weren't good enough to play for them. It's often times not true, and usually comes from a sense of entitlement that certain countries deserve players to play for them, as if it's not a personal choice for the player where they want to play.
A player like Dest has played his whole footballing career for US youth teams, and has turned down playing for Netherlands multiple times in the past. Netherlands is now trying to offer him a better deal. Maybe he changes his mind. Let these players make these decisions. We have no clue what their life dynamics are.
And you should get used to this type of thing happening for all types of National Teams. Countries like Morocco, Algeria, Tunisia, Cameroon, Senegal all have players born in France in their teams, and many of them are good enough to have played for France, but preferred to play for those countries. Many German born players who are good enough to play for Germany are now playing for Turkey, and that's because they prefer to play for those countries.
Mexico is holding identification camps for the best youth players with Mexican heritage in the United States. This is the way the international game is. And I have no issue with it. Let these players play where they want, if they are eligible. It's their life, not ours.
So the only thing you have is that he played a few matches for the USA youth. Again, the boy grew up in the Netherlands, speaks Dutch, shits Dutch, does everything Dutch, do you get that? Or you still on about the fact he dressed up what? 13 times a USA sweater in his youth? The USA is the one fishing in our pond here, and again, at the end he is not that exciting, just a right back.
And trust me, there is no deal, it is to play for a real team or a secondary team. USA with all respect is non relevant, the Dutch team is.